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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
Coming Out of Toxicity
Relationships—romantic or not—tend to be difficult. After all, you're bringing together two different people from two different worlds. You have different pasts and experiences. Different goals of sorts, and even different ideas as what life you would desire together.
By Sabrina Sthay7 years ago in Humans
Getting Out of a Domestic Violence Relationship
Getting out of a domestically violent relationship is the hardest part of the relationship. So many factors come into play. Where are you going to go, or how are you going to get the abuser out? There are usually children involved. What will happen to them? How do you make sure he/she can’t hurt you once you are apart?
By Jeanette Stingley7 years ago in Humans
Your Life; Your Choice
In a social media-infested world; our lives are exposed for any praise, judgment, ridicule, like, or comment for the internet masses to see. We are constantly being compared, and comparing each other. Our choices and opinions are forever being sized up by total strangers. It is almost as if we are living our lives for public opinion; never for ourselves.
By J A N E Y .7 years ago in Humans
Making Your Marriage Last
Will my marriage last? That is a question you may have asked yourself. During the first few years of my marriage I asked myself that very question, not because I wasn’t committed to my marriage, but because there were so many outside influences that had potential to foul things up for us. We got married young. I was 21 and he was 23. We were high school sweethearts, with an off-and-on relationship for about a year. We got back together after high school and after a year he proposed. After a year-long engagement, we got married in the church I had attended when I was younger. Neither of us had gone to church in years, but it was important to us that we get married in a church. The reverend didn’t really remember me. I was surprised that he didn’t require us to have any sort of pre-marital counseling. As a matter of fact, I really do not recall even talking about all the important things that two people planning a life together should talk about. I knew we needed a place to live, so while we were planning the wedding, we simultaneously looked for a house. I had an ideal image in my head of the way things should be. I knew that I didn’t want to start off paying rent, that we needed to buy a little house to start off in. I thought the financial commitment that we were making together was important toward the longevity of our relationship. We went from living with our parents to moving in with each other. Was that the right thing to do? I know most couples these days don’t do it that way. Most prefer to grow individually before getting married. Most prefer to establish themselves in their career before getting married. I don’t think there is a right way or wrong way to do it. I think it has more to do with your mindset before you get married, as well as, of course, during. Divorce never was something I considered, not due to religious beliefs, but because I knew I loved this man that much. I knew that, no matter what, I would always love him. Yes, of course there have been times when I didn’t want to even look at his face and contemplated smothering him with a pillow while he slept. Just kidding, of course. But, you know what I mean. My husband is not the best communicator. He isn’t verbally expressive. I knew he loved me because he said so and because he was looking at houses, planning our wedding, etc. It was more the way we looked at each other. I think we could sort of see ourselves in each other's eyes. Not trying to make this mushy, but it was just a feeling that we had found our someone.
By Lara Narzinsky7 years ago in Humans
How to Recognize Toxic Relationships and Break Them Off
In the process of building communication, a person with normal self-esteem wants to get support and be filled with energy. But, as practice shows, this is not always the case. After talking with some people, there is a feeling of emptiness, irritation and frustration. These are clear signs of a toxic relationship.
By Kori Anderson7 years ago in Humans
Comparison Is Not Healthy
I guess by now this is not news to you; you’ve probably been told a lot of times to not compare yourself to others, and the same goes for your relationship. If you haven't heard it before, well, news flash: do not compare yourself to others. Now before you get all defensive or sensitive, comparing yourself to someone is not the same as looking to someone for inspiration, or guidance. You know, social media whether we like it or not, has a very strong influence on us, even the things we think we come about originally, probably has its source deep rooted in something we saw on social media.
By Chimdi Chime7 years ago in Humans
How to Know if You Can Trust Someone...
Trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Without trust, relationships will crumble. But while you’re in the dating process (i.e. pre-relationship), it can be hard to determine if the person you just met can be trusted.
By Heart Centered Universe7 years ago in Humans
Why Can't I Make Friends in My 20s?
Friendship is something we go through life yearning for. It's something we need, and a lot of us can say we have it, or at least we did. I'm 22 years old, when I was 18, I had a squad of Taylor Swiftian proportions. There were parties, road trips, vacations, and talks that went on till four AM. Now, my squad is looking a bit depleted, namely, I could count them on one hand.
By Eva Claire7 years ago in Humans
The Inner Divide of PMDD
Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder has a long list of symptoms associated with it. Perhaps one of the most disconcerting to our sense of self is the division it can create within our perspective. When we are symptom free, for example, our relationships can hum along even in the face of difficult challenges. Bring on the symptoms, though, and all of a sudden our tolerance for any trouble evaporates to the point of wishing for and sometimes acting on our freedom from those same relationships. Friends look like enemies. Lovers look like cheaters. Family becomes a target.
By Cheeky Minx7 years ago in Humans
Discover Yourself First
Have you ever found yourself question things about yourself, due to another person's actions or words? When you know the facts about yourself, worries and wonders should not run across your mind. If you think you need to acquire truth about you, throw yourself into the world, surround yourself with different people, try unusual things, and broaden your horizons.
By Moranda Breaux7 years ago in Humans
